What positive changes has the feminist movement made for women and society?
One could argue it has lifted up women and given them a more important role in society. One might say it has freed women from the shackles of the stereotypical gender role as a wife and mother and given women the ability to have a career outside the home. History might even put it in terms of bringing equality between men and women.
Women can do it all
We can bring home the bacon and fry it up too! This is what I remember hearing as a kid growing up in the 80s. Television programs were overrun with career women working long hours who were still able to have a wonderful home made dinner ready, an impeccably clean home, and well-groomed children. Ahhh… The perfect picture of a well-balanced career and family life. This is what we women should strive for, right? But is that an accurate evaluation, or a lie sold to us by the TV and movie studios?
I’m going to go with a lie.
The reality of juggling a career and raising a family is not pretty. There are major sacrifices that will inevitably come to pass.
Keeping up with the Joneses
There’s an idea that a second income is necessary in order to obtain a standard of living or to be included in one’s social class — having more stuff and better stuff than your neighbors or peers. Failing to do so is perceived as demonstrating socio-economic or cultural inferiority. — You are the trash of the neighborhood or looked down upon by your peers.
Having two brand new cars, a big house full of new furniture, kids in every single sport, wearing the latest fashion… etc, is hardly obtainable on a one income household. So, it’s sold as another great reason for women to join the workforce and for men to pick up the slack and help out around the house. I mean men can cook, clean, and take care of the rugrats too, right? Of course they can. And why shouldn’t they?!
As most of us know (at least up until recently), men and women are different. Other than the physical differences, men and women are internally wired differently too. What does that mean? It means men have a more logical and fact based decision-making process, whereas women are prone to a more emotional approach when making choices. Women have a higher capacity for empathy than men, which makes them better suited for being the primary caregiver. Men handle stress better than women, which makes them better suited for providing and protecting the family. It is also why men, on average, die sooner than women.
What has that done for society?
One minor example with big consequences is the family meal. The chances of having a career and still being able to prepare a home cooked meal are slim and most likely exchanged for a quick burger or bucket of chicken from a fast-food joint.
Throughout history, it has been the women’s role to prepare and cook meals for the family. That’s a pretty important job. It isn’t about being shackled to the kitchen, but instead choosing healthy, life-giving foods and meals for the ones you love.
The increase in childhood diabetes and other diet related illnesses are extremely concerning. Our obesity numbers are off the charts! (I know, you can’t fat shame people now, but I live in reality where being overweight is a heath issue.) The decline in home-cooked meals and increase in fast food consumption goes hand in hand with the feminist movement.
On this point alone, I give the feminist agenda an F.
But that can’t be the only failure of our friends in the feminist movement, can it?
Due to the stress of a full-time job and still trying to keep up on all the family matters, divorces have increased. Children are growing up in broken homes at an alarming rate. Looking at the divorces per 1,000 marriages: In 1950, the divorce rate was 2.5%. From 1960 to 1980, the divorce rate more than doubled! Our country went from 9.2% -22.6%.
This meant that while less than 20% of couples who married in 1950 ended up divorced, about 50% of couples who married in 1970 did. And approximately half of the children born to married parents in the 1970s became victims of a dissolved marriage, compared to only about 11% of those born in the 1950s.
This massive increase in broken marriages runs parallel to the feminist movement, the ideology that women should be able to work outside the home and still raise a family. As you can see, this has not been beneficial to the traditional family.
Kids become the unintended sacrifice of a broken home. They are shuffled around from one parent to another and often made to choose sides between the two. The emotional trauma of a child growing up in this type of family life is hard to ignore. Broken kids grow up to be broken adults.
Remember, kids are the future. Shouldn’t we try to give them a better life than we had? This scores another big fat “F” in the grade book for the progressive feminist.
What happened next?
Once women began to realize these pitfalls of ‘trying to do it all’, they began putting off getting married and having a family. They were told they can have their career first and have a family later. Any human biology student can tell you women have a harder time conceiving after 30, and become high risk after 35. So, for most taking this route, biological children become less of an option.
Not all women want kids though.
Although this may be true for some, it is not true for most. The fact is, women are made for having babies. We are emotionally driven creatures who have a natural need to nurture and care for others. When you remove this from the equation, women will start to look for something or someone to nurture and protect. This is why you see more women than men falling prey to social justice ideology.
Mothers will fiercely defend her kids if she feels they are being threatened. This is also known as the ‘mama bear’ reaction. The social justice ideology groups people by race, sexuality, gender, etc… (the list is long, so I will spare you rest). They label these groups ‘protected’, as if to say they are weak and fragile and cannot stand up for themselves, so WE will do it for them — go get ’em Mama Bear! This seems to be a replacement for the lack of children to care for. You will even find this happens to women who have kids, but life is so busy (school, after-school activities, homework, daycare, weekend sports…) they rarely see or interact with their kids at all, leaving an empty feeling that is replaced with work, social media, and even fighting for social justice around the clock.
Why have women fallen for this trap of lies?
Women have been sold these lies through the emotional vehicles of envy and jealousy. Women want to be equal to men and be treated like men. They are envious and jealous of what they see as the freedom of being a man. He comes and goes, has no children tied to him, works in the city, goes out to lunch or for a drink after work… All the things women couldn’t do while being homemakers.
But are those real freedoms? Just as the woman sees herself tied to the house, a man sees himself tied to the office. He works long hours, doesn’t see his kids enough, he has the weight of the families’ finances on his shoulders, and if he does go out for lunch or have a drink after work, it’s probably to destress from the long day of putting up with clients or co-workers. This is why men die before women. But for most women, blinded by jealousy and envy, can’t see the truth in their husbands so called freedoms.
It’s been that way since the get go!
Let’s look at the original feminist, Eve. Adam and Eve lived happily together in the Garden of Eden. They had it all! Until one day Eve was alone and was confronted by a snake pulling at her emotions. Which emotions? Jealously and envy. She could never be as good as Adam. Adam will never love her as much as he loves God. Adam was more important to God than she was. In order to be Adam’s equal, she must eat the fruit from the tree of knowledge. The tree of knowledge was the one tree that was forbidden. The one thing they both were told to stay away from. But in a jealous rage fueled with envy, she ate the fruit. She put all rational logic aside and relied on her emotions to make her choice.
Not only did she disobey God, she then went off to trick Adam into doing so as well. And they were both sent packing from the perfect life in the Garden of Eden.
Just as Eve fell for the lies of the snake, women today have fallen for the false promises wrapped up in the feminist ideology. There are real roles men and women play in society. That doesn’t make one greater than the other. It just makes us different, but complimentary. And if you ask me, women in their traditional role are a much more important part of society. It is on the shoulders of women that the next generation is brought up to be honest, strong, independent, loving, and hard-working.
If you look around today, you will see the carnage left by this assumption that women can do it all. But we don’t need to do it all. We are raising the next generation of both men and women to do it all together.
“Never half ass two things. Whole ass one thing.”